In this guide, you will learn how to know if God approves of your relationship .
Dating as a christian comes with its challenges.
Everyone has an opinion on what it should be or should look like.
But in the end, there is only person whose opinion outweighs all the others; God’s.
After all, your relationship with Him is the greatest of all.
So if you are dating, you may be wondering, how do I know God approves of my relationship?
Here are three signs that God approves of a relationship.
#1 – The relationship increased your pursuit for ministry
The first sign God approves your relationship is if this relationship is increasing your motivation for ministry.
If you want to know what God wants for you specifically, you have to first start with what God wants of all Christians generally.
You have to take what the Word of God says to everybody, and then through the power of the Holy Spirit apply those specific truths to your life.
In John 13 verses 12 through 14, we have a clear example of what Jesus wants for all Christians.
The Bible reads;
“12 When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. 13 “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. 14 Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.”John 13:12-14
It is clear that God wants all Christians to be servant-minded.
And to show their love for God through their love for other people.
As such, if you want to know if this relationship is something God wants, ask yourself, does it helps you accomplish the general things that God has for you like ministry and service?
#2 – Is it fulfilling the purpose of Christian dating?
The second sign that God approves of a relationship is if it is fulfilling the purpose of Christian dating.
Believe it or not, I don’t believe that God is displeased if you date someone that you don’t end up marrying.
I believe that wise Christian dating is a process that is used to gauge whether or not a man and woman want to become a husband and wife.
For this reaosn, the purpose of Christian dating is not to marry the person that you are dating, rather to figure out if God does or doesn’t want you to marry this person.
If you start dating someone and then God makes it clear he does not want you with this person in, you have fulfilled the successful goal of Christian dating.
But if you realize, yes, God does want you and this person to get married, again you have accomplished the goal of a healthy season of Christian dating.
It is not wrong to date someone and feel led by God to actually date someone.
You pray about it you feel released to do so and then maybe weeks months maybe even a year goes by and then you feel like God saying,
‘You know what, I actually want you to break up.
This isn’t what I have for you.’
That doesn’t mean you missed God’s will.
In the beginning God, often reveals what He wants for you in relationships through the process of Christian dating.
Certainly, He can reveal His will in other ways.
But that is one way that He does it; through actually interacting and figuring it out by going on a short journey together in life and then you realize you know this isn’t what God wants.
I think God approves of such relationships
Then there are these ones I don’t believe God approves of.
If you know there is sin taking place and it is just getting worse, and there Is no repentance, that is not a good sign.
Or if you know that God is telling you this is not what I want for you, do not be in this relationship and then you do it any way, that is not what God wants.
But if you are just unsure, that is the point of Christian dating.
Just to recap;
If you know that you should get married, you should get married.
If you know you should break up, you should break up.
If you are not sure whether to break up or get married, you should keep dating.
That is the point of Christian dating and so if you are in a healthy season of gauging and using Christian dating properly, then I believe God approves for that relationship even if it doesn’t end in marriage.
#3 – Is it biblical? Do both of you want it?
The third sign that God approves of a relationship is if it is biblical and wanted by both the man and the woman.
In short, there are two biblical requirements for a marriage to take place;
- It has to be in alignment with God’s will, meaning His revealed will in Scripture. If it breaks some clear command in the Bible, then God does not want that marriage to take place.
- Biblical requirement for marriage is desire. If you want a relationship and it is biblical, you and the person really love each other and the relationship is fulfilling the biblical requirements, then that is something that God wants for you.
If it is breaking either one of those; not biblical or one of you don’t want the relationship, then God doesn’t want that for you either.
It says that in 1 Corinthians 7 verse 36,
“ 36 If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong[a] and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.”Corinthians 7 verse 36
Notice the emphasis on personal choice there.
If you want to get married and the relationship is biblical, God approves of that union.
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